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Benjamin's Bike Ride

Posted by bentjmills1219 on September 30, 2008 at 8:14 AM Comments comments (0)

Hello everyone,

Benjamin's Bike Ride was this past Sunday.  Even though the rain didn't stop until the event was over, we still had a very successful day.  We want to thank everyone for all their efforts towards making the day a success!  A special thank you to Benjamin's Aunt Liz and Uncle Scott for organizing, planning and pulling off the event.  And thank you to Benjamin's Gramma for getting the donations for the raffles.  Her and Carole (Meme) sold raffle tickets all day for us.  And thank you to all the family and friends who showed up to help with the event and to participate too!  Crystal and Christian took some great pictures that will be on the website real soon.  And Rosemary & Joseph, and Tina & Leslie who sat at the water stations for the riders.  Mark (Travis Cycle) for driving the "sag wagon".  Gram and Deana for registering everyone.  Amy & Lil' Dustin for setting up with us.  There are so many people to thank!....Thank you everyone!!!

The 10 mile ride was the most popular.....We had lots of family and friends participate and even kids made it the entire way!  A very special CONGRATULATIONS to Benjamin's Uncle Joey who rode the entire 10 miles.  Joey was hospitalized the same time as Benjamin was.  Joey pulled through, has lost lots of weight and it doing wonderful.  Way to go Joe!  The rain didn't stop the many riders from participating...for that, we thank you again. 

The 25 mile ride included the more advanced riders.  They didn't even need to stop at the water station!  Maybe next year we will have to have a longer ride!  The cook-out followed and winners of the raffle were announced.  Then we cleaned up and headed home, with our sunglasses on since the sun decided to make an appearance as we were leaving.

Once again, we thank you all for your support.  A special thank you to those who volunteered their time towards the day and to those who participated in the event.  Benjamin's Fund, thanks to all of you, has once again, had another successful event!

Love & Prayers,

Stacy, Johnny, Dustin, all of Benjamin's Family and the Committee for Benjamin's Bike Ride

Posted by bentjmills1219 on September 7, 2008 at 1:44 PM Comments comments (0)

Good afternoon,

With Benjamin's second fundraising event drawing near, we thought that we would give some more information about it.  September 28th we will be having our 1st annual Family Bike Ride.  It is a relaxing bike ride either going 10 or 25 miles (or both!).  It is being organized mainly by Scott and Liz Travis.  They are handling most of it and the rest of us are "helpers".  So, the information for the ride is on the flyer and the registration form is also on the website.  Like I said, it will be a casual ride, not a race.  Just a fun way to spend time with friends and family and raise some more money for Benjamin's Fund.  With colder weather approaching this will most likely be the last fundraiser for the year (though you never know for sure...)  We will be having a chinese raffle once again. (So, if anyone knows of anyone who would like to make a donation for that, please let us know)  The first 100 adult riders will receive a t-shirt and we will be having a cook-out after serving up dogs, chips, etc.... We hope to see you all there, even if you don't want to participate in the ride and just want to stop by, we would love to see you.  If you can't ride due to not having a bike, equipment, etc. please contact me at [email protected] and we will see if we can get you a loaner bike/equipment....Remember to bring your helmets too! Safety first!

We hope you all had a wonderful summer and enjoyed the sun.  Looking forward to Benjamin's Bike Ride.....Love and Prayers,  Stacy, Johnny, and Dustin

Posted by bentjmills1219 on August 5, 2008 at 7:25 PM Comments comments (0)
It has now been 6 months since Benjamin passed away.  Time really does go by so fast.  We just had Benjamin's first fundraising event and it was great.  Once again, it was a weekend full of Benjamin.  We started with a home run derby on Friday night.  We had about 30 players and some of them even hit home runs!  All of them seemed to have a good time though!  We had lots of family and friends stop by and watch the players and play some games, have some food, and try to win prizes through the chinese raffle.  In the end, it was Bobby Silva (first place), Sean Goranson (second place) and Mike Mills (third place).  Saturday started early with the softball games.  We had 4 teams competing.  It was an extremely hot day and the players were troopers!  They played all day!!  Some played on a few teams so they played more than others, but again, they all had fun and only one got hurt (but we won't mention names...)  Crystal and Jessie were at the registration table doing a fine job.  Liz ran the refreshments wonderfully (she even had a line of people and handled that!), and Margaret sold raffle tickets for 2 days!  Spencer ran the "pick-a-pop" game and a few others both days.  And Marissa helped out (with Anna) on Saturday while Rich played ball.  Kathy and Corey helped out on the games Friday night.  All in all, it was a family and friends affair.  On Saturday, we also had Carole and Sue from "fun faces with a twist" donating their time for the event.  They did glitter tattoos and face painting.  What a great job they did!  It was a great event with lots of people giving their time, efforts, money, and their all.  We raised some more money for Benjamin's Fund and that is a great thing!  We hope that next year will be bigger and better!  The winning team for the softball tournament was "Rick's team" from Mansfield.  Congratulations everyone!  Great job!  Once again, we are so thankful for all that everyone has done and continues to do for us and for Benjamin's fund.  We couldn't do it without you all!  Much love to all of you!  Love and Prayers!  Stacy, Johnny and Dustin

Posted by bentjmills1219 on June 17, 2008 at 8:01 PM Comments comments (0)

Hello Everyone!

We are now in the process of preparing for Benjamin's first fundraiser.  It will be "Benjamin's Benefit Ballgame" being held the weekend of July 19th.  Benjamin would have been 7 months old.....The event will be held in Middleboro at Pierce Field behind the police station.  It will start on Friday night with a homerun derby at 6:00pm.  Then on Saturday morning, the event continues with softball tournaments.  Anyone interested in starting a team feel free to contact me (info. below).  Even if you are interested in playing but don't have enough people for a team, let me know and maybe we can get one together for you.  The cost is $350 per team.  We are also looking for donations.  We are requesting them from area restaurants and businesses to use as raffle items and prizes.  If anyone knows of any business that would be willing to donate, please let me know.  Corporate donors that are interested in having their name displayed on a flag ($250) or on t-shirts given to every player ($500) can contact us also.  We will also be having a face painter there.  Fun Faces with a Twist (www.funfaceswithatwist.com) is going to generously donate all proceeds from the event to Benjamin's fund.  We will also be having food/beverages, doing a 50/50 raffle, and having games for the kids.  So, feel free to stop by even if you aren't playing and grab some food, play a few games, or get your face painted.  It will be great to see you all!

Any questions/concerns or to sign up your team/yourself or donate contact Stacy at [email protected] or 1-508-822-0567

Thank you all for your continued support of Benjamin!

Posted by bentjmills1219 on March 22, 2008 at 11:45 AM Comments comments (0)

Hello and Happy Easter. 

Not too much has changed since we last wrote.  Benjamin's scholarship fund is now set up at the bank.  We are waiting for the checks in his name so that we can start the donating!  We will be looking at a chair for the NICU probably this week.  We also received a donation from Johnson & Johnson of gift packs with personal items for us to add to the baskets to donate to the Ronald McDonald House.  (Thank you Aunt Linda!)  We have also put out donation letters to hotels to try to get some personal size shampoos, etc. donated to Benjamin's fund and then we in turn can donate them in his name as part of the basket.  Also, we are trying to get donations from restaurants to include in there too.  Our goal is 6 hotels and 6 restaurants that will commit to donating twice a year.  Then we will have a donation basket every month in Benjamin's name.  If anyone knows of any hotel or restaurant that would be willing to do this please let us know and we can send them a donation request.  Thank you.

We also received some beautiful handmade blankets of different patterns to donate.  They also came with a matching hat for the babies.  The hats are similar to the one's that Benjamin's Aunt Liz made for him.  But these ones were made by Liz's Mom and her friends. (Thank you Meme!)

We are still pondering over a fundraiser for this summer.  We will let you know as soon as plans are in motion.

Many of you have asked about Benjamin's scholarship fund.  The word scholarship confuses I think.  It is not the typical scholarship like someone would receive for school.  It is more of a foundation in Benjamin's name.  His money will be used to help causes that helped us.  Eventually if there is more money then maybe we can do more but for now the baskets and the chair donation is about all we can do and still leave money in his account to keep it going.  We would eventually like to pick out a specific cause to donate to but for now there are too many to choose from.  In a few weeks we should know more about what happened during his birth which caused all of this.  Maybe once we know that, then we will know more of what needs more research.  Then we can donate to that specific thing. 

Tomorrow is Easter and also Benjamin and his Nana's memorial mass at St. Jacques.  Then Monday will be 48 days that Benjamin has been gone for.  The same amount of days he was alive for.  It is hard to believe that the time has passed so quickly. 

We wish everyone a Happy Easter and we will update soon!  Thank you all for the continued prayers for us and for our family.  And thank you for keeping Benjamin's memory alive.

Love and Prayers.....

Posted by bentjmills1219 on March 8, 2008 at 11:13 AM Comments comments (1)

Good morning all.  This past Wednesday was Benjamin's one month anniversary.  We can't believe how fast the month went by without him.  On March 24th Benjamin will have been gone for as long as he was here.  It's hard to imagine the time going by so fast now, when he was here it almost stood still at some points.  This week we got Benjamin's ID# from the IRS.  Now we can start depositing the checks for his scholarship fund.  We will be putting up a link on the website to inform everyone when/where we make a donation in his name.  We will also be posting new pictures, etc. so check in once in a while.  Once again, if anyone has any pictures can you please send them to us at [email protected]

A few things that we are working on right now:  A scrapbook with Benjamin's pictures.  Mom is working on blankets for babies in the NICU (I have made 3 already and if anyone wants to make some to donate please let me know and I will buy you the yarn...)  We are also having rosaries and chaplets made out of the roses from Benjamin's funeral.  You can see what they are like on the woman's website at www.rosariesfromtheheart.com  It will be a nice way to remember him.  We are also trying to design Benjamin's grave marker.  He can't have his own headstone because there is already one there for Stacy's father and grandfather.  But we can put a marker so we are working on that.  Hopefully Dad can design something good since he is so "artsy".  We will also be having his months mass on March 23rd (Easter Sunday) at the Old St. Jacques Church where his funeral mass was said.  It is also John's Moms 2 year anniversary so the mass will be said for Benjamin and his Nana.  Very special.....

Right now so many things are up in the air.  There is a lot of unfinished business and sometimes it is just to overwhelming to work on it.  But please feel free to contact us through email with any ideas or suggestions that you have.  We never thought we would be in this position but now that we are we want to make sure everything is done correctly.  We definitely want to do some type of BENefit possibly yearly.  Mostly it will be to keep his scholarship fund going and to keep his memory alive.  It will also be a nice time to gather with friends, family and people whose lives were touched by Benjamin.  We will keep you updated.  (We will try to update the website weekly.....promise)

Posted by bentjmills1219 on March 4, 2008 at 7:04 PM Comments comments (2)

This is a story that was given to Johnny and I when we were at the NICU by a wonderful, caring nurse, Monika.  we thought you might enjoy it.

Once upon a time, three angels were busily working in a miracle factory.  They were responsible for wrapping up all the little miracles and sending them on their way.  Normally they wrapped each one in bright, sturdy paper with big, shiny ribbons.  They stamped them with a delivery date and away they would go to the parents who eagerly awaited their arrival.  Things usually ran pretty smoothly.

One day, however, down the conveyer belt came a little miracle that made the angels pause.  "Oh my," said the first angel "this one's uhm...well...different."  "Yes, he is unique" said the second angel.  "Well, I think he is quite special," said the first angel "but I don't think he will quite fit our standard wrapping procedures."  And the second angel added, "And we know he's special, but will everyone else?"  "Not a problem," said the third angel "obviously a special miracle deserves extra special wrapping; and of course we'll send him off with our most heartfelt blessings.  Then everyone will see how special he is."  "What a wonderful idea!" replied the others.  So they searched the shelves high and low for their finest paper, and their most delicate ribbons.

When they were done, they stood back and admired their work.  "Beautiful!" they all agreed.  "Now for our blessings," said the third angel "for it is time for him to go."  "I will bless him with innocence and happiness," said the first angel.  "And I will bless him with strength to face the many challenges that lie ahead" said the second angel.  "And I will bless him with an inner beauty that will shine on all who look upon him" said the third angel.  Before sending him off the third angel, who was very wise, gently tucked a note inside.

And it said,

"Dear Parents: Today you have received a very special gift.  It may not be what you were expecting and you may be disappointed, angry and hurt.  But please know that he comes with many blessings.  And, while there may be pain, he will bring you much joy.  He will take you on a very difficult journey but you will meet many wonderful people.  He will teach you patience and understanding and make you reach deep inside yourselves to find a source of strength and faith you never knew you had.  He will enrich your lives and will touch the hearts of all who meet him.  He may be fragile but he has great inner strength. 

So please handle him with care.  Give him lots of attention and shower him with hugs and kisses.  Love him with all your heart and he will blossom before your eyes.  His spirit will shine like the brightest star for all to see and you will know that you are truly blessed.

 

Posted by bentjmills1219 on February 21, 2008 at 5:46 PM Comments comments (2)

Good evening everyone who stills checks into Benjamin's website.  We haven't written since Benjamin's death due to not having any words.  We are deeply saddened as you already know.  We are getting Benjamin's things in order which take up quite a bit of time.  We are not sure why but things seem to take a lot longer to do.  It just takes more effort to do things now.  We miss him terribly. 

Once again thank you all so much for your outpouring of thoughts, prayers, cards, donations, food and everything else.  We are so appreciative of all of you. 

This summer Dad will be building a gazebo in Benjamin's memory.  It will give us a great place to sit this summer and think about and miss Benjamin.  We will put pictures up on this site as that progresses.  We plan to keep this site up and running (with help from Crystal and Mike) so that the pictures of Benjamin are still able to be viewed by all of you.  Also, because we hope to do some type of yearly event in Ben's name and this will be a great way for us to keep you all updated.  So, still check into the website occasionally.  And we still have lots more pictures to post also so that will be coming soon.  We will also be donating to organizations in Benjamin's name so you can find out from the website where we donated to. 

Some of our ideas so far are to donate comfortable rocking chairs to the NICU at Women and Infants.  We know first hand how uncomfortable it can be when you are trying to hold your precious child and the chair just makes it so uncomfortable that you can't hold them for as long as you want.  We also are planning to make some meals for the nurses/staff/Ronald McDonald house possibly once a month.  Mom loves to cook/bake so it will be a good outlet and also it will show them all how much we appreciate them.  Of course we will try to drop the food off when Rich (Ben's primary nurse) is there so he can enjoy it also.  We are sure that it will be difficult to visit the NICU but all of our firsts without Benjamin are difficult.  We also want to get some plaques made up.  Mom is also working on crocheting baby blankets for the NICU.  (If anyone else wants to make some baby blankets to donate please let us know....we will buy the supplies if you make it for them....the more the merrier!)  Those are the things in mind for us right now.  We also want to do a yearly BENefit similar to the one that was held on Feb. 10th. 

About Benjamin's Benefit...What a great outpouring of love and support for him.  It was definitely a Benjamin weekend!  We were overwhelmed to say the least.  There were so many people that we love there.  And we are so thankful for all the hard work and time that went into the planning of it.  We absolutely cannot say enough thanks to all of you.  It was a beautiful thing and we will never forget it.  Thank you all so entirely much.

Also, if anyone has any pictures of Benjamin could you please email them to us or write to us and we will send you a self addressed stamped envelope to send them to us.  We appreciate them all so please send them to us at [email protected]

In closing thank you all so much for all the thoughts and prayers for our precious baby Benjamin.  We wanted him so badly to live a long life with us but that wasn't in the master plan.  Now he will  live forever in our hearts and we are blessed to have the outpouring of love and support for us and him.  Thank you all so much and God Bless you all.

Posted by bentjmills1219 on February 6, 2008 at 3:40 PM Comments comments (0)

It's a great feeling to have family and friends and some people that we haven't even met come up to us and say how Benjamin had touched their lives. Like we said all along, maybe thats why Ben was here with all of us, to do the work of angels. This, along with everything else, is what gives us our strength and we want to thank everyone from the bottom of our heart.

Those of you wishing to attend Benjamin's services here is the information:

Benjamins visiting hours will be at the Hathaway-Crapo Funeral Home, 350 Somerset Ave. Taunton, MA. from 4pm-8pm on Friday 2/8/08.

www.hathawayfunerals.com

Benjamin's Mass of Christian Burial will be at 10 a.m Saturday, 2/9/08 at St. Jude the Apostle Parish (formerly St. Jacques) located on 249 Whittenton street in Taunton, MA. 

The interment will be at St. Joseph's Cemetary, Taunton, MA.

 

Posted by bentjmills1219 on February 5, 2008 at 3:11 PM Comments comments (2)

As stated in the previous update, Benjamin had a rough start today.

 

On 12/19/07 Benjamin Travis Jonas Mills was brought into this world, a little unexpected but was welcomed with open hearts and arms.

Benjamin started fighting the first second he came out and never stopped. He has been through more in 48 days than some adults have in a lifetime.

Benjamin made all of his Doctors shrug their shoulders, and made his Nurses love him.

Everyday and every moment with Benjamin has been cherished.

 

Father Perry from St. Judes the Apostle Parish in Taunton came to the house to Pray alongside Benjamin and the Family.

 

Today just before noon, while Benjamin was surrounded by his Family and Friends at home, God decided that it was time for Benjamin to make his journey home.  He didn?t do it alone, Grampy Travis, Nana Mills, and Uncle Gregory were by his side guiding him every step of the way.

 

While he was here he seemed to touch the hearts of everyone. Maybe you can call this a special gift.

 

We would like to say a special Thank You to Dr. Hoye (Kelly) for being here night and day throughout Benjamin?s journey.  We couldn?t have asked for a better physician for our Precious Ben.   Also, Thank You to Dr. Hoye?s Family and Office for all of the sacrifices that you all have made for Our Family.

 

Thank you for all of the Prayers that helped lift our Family, and we ask you to continue Praying for all Families in this trying time.

 

There will be more details to follow when the arrangements have been made.

 

Benjamin, Johnny, Stacy, and Dustin Thank all of your thoughts, prayers, and support.

 

 


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